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Frequently Asked Questions
If I go to a meeting, will I have to talk?
No one is required to talk at any meeting. We understand how difficult that can be when our grief is so fresh. We do ask that you listen, however.
My child was an adult and didn't live at home. Can I still go to a meeting?
Chapter meetings are open to all families who have experienced the death of a child, at any age, from any cause. Regardless of age, we in TCF believe our children will always be thought of as just that.....our children.
Is there a charge to attend?
There is never a charge to attend a TCF meeting. Our chapter relies on fundraising events and voluntary donations from members, friends and the community at large. 
What happens at a meeting?
At some meetings we simply introduce ourselves and share our thoughts and feelings. At other times, we have a program or topic for discussion in addition to the sharing time. These programs are typically presented by an experienced group member.  On some occasions we may invite a guest speaker.
Can I bring a friend with me?
Of course, you can bring a friend, but we ask that they, as well as all members, respect each other's privacy. It is important for us to be able to share freely within our group and be sure confidences will be respected.
My spouse doesn’t want to come with me. Can I come alone?
Yes. We all grieve differently and your spouse may not be ready to take part just yet...or ever. In addition, many single parents both male and female attend meetings alone or with a friend.
My child died from AIDS. Will I be welcome?
Yes. All families who have experienced the death of a child at any age, from any cause, are welcome.
Religion doesn't matter to me anymore. Can people at a meeting accept that?
I think you will find TCF members are very tolerant of any views. After the death of a child, many priorities, as well as values, change.
I notice that some meetings are at a church. Do I have to belong to a church to attend?
TCF has no religious affiliation at all. Some of our meetings or events may be held at a church that has available facilities to accommodate our needs.
Do I need a reservation before I come to a meeting?
No reservations are needed. Just come whenever you feel up to it.
My child died seven years ago, and I postponed my grief work. Now it's catching up with me. Is it too late to come now?
We all grieve differently. Many parents don't feel the need of a support group until years after the death of a child. It's all right to come whenever you are ready, whether it's soon after your child's death, months later or years later.
We have surviving children at home who would benefit from a support group. May we bring them with us?
While older teen and adult siblings are welcome to attend, the meetings are not appropriate for younger children. The policy of The Compassionate Friends is that only those old enough to drive to the meetings be permitted to attend.

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